Just words? Think again, these 10 phrases can break someone inside

May 15, 2025 TOI Lifestyle Desk

It might not mean anything to you, but read this for 5 mins

The truth is, words stick. And some words, especially the casually tossed ones can cut deeper than intended. They might seem harmless on the surface, but over time, these phrases chip away at someone’s self-worth, confidence, or mental well-being. Getty Images

“Just get over it.”

This one invalidates pain instantly. Everyone heals at their own pace, and telling someone to “get over it” not only dismisses their struggle but also adds shame to it. It suggests their emotions are an inconvenience, not worth your time. Getty Images

“You’re too sensitive.”

This phrase gaslights the person into questioning their emotions. Instead of encouraging empathy or deeper conversation, it implies that the person is the problem simply because they reacted with honesty or vulnerability. Getty Images

“Stop overthinking.”

Easier said than done. For someone dealing with anxiety, this phrase doesn’t help it frustrates. It suggests their mind is broken, rather than recognising that they may be overwhelmed and could use support, not shutdowns. Getty Images

“You should be grateful, it could be worse.”

Gratitude and struggle can coexist. Saying this dismisses someone's feelings and pressures them to suppress discomfort. It may come from a good place, but it can leave the person feeling guilty for having emotions at all. Getty Images

“You always make everything about you.”

This can be a deeply cutting accusation, especially if said during a vulnerable moment. It makes someone feel selfish for expressing needs or hurt, and can teach them to stay quiet—even when they really need to speak up. Getty Images

“Others have it worse than you.”

This isn’t a competition. Pain isn’t less valid just because someone else is struggling too. This phrase can shame people into silence, making them feel like they don’t “deserve” to be upset. Empathy should never be a contest. Getty Images

“You’re being dramatic.”

Calling someone “dramatic” when they’re trying to communicate their feelings is another form of emotional invalidation. It’s a dismissive shortcut that undermines the real issues at hand and can leave the other person feeling ridiculous or childish for opening up. Getty Images

“Man up.”

This toxic phrase pressures men and boys into suppressing their emotions. It equates strength with silence, and weakness with vulnerability. Over time, it builds emotional walls that become hard to break, often leading to long-term mental health issues. Getty Images

“You’re fine.”

Are they, though? This phrase shuts down honest check-ins and masks concern with assumption. It might seem reassuring, but it overlooks the importance of listening deeply. Sometimes, people need permission to not be okay—and this denies that space. Getty Images

“It’s all in your head.”

Mental health is in the head but that doesn’t make it any less real. This phrase minimizes anxiety, depression, and trauma by implying it’s imagined or exaggerated. It's invalidating, and can push someone further away from seeking the help they need. Getty Images

We all slip up sometimes

But language is powerful and choosing our words with care can make a real difference. A simple tweak in how we respond can create a safer space for someone to share, heal, and breathe. Getty Images

You can say this instead

“I’m here for you. Take your time.” “I get that your mind’s racing—want to talk it out?” It’s not about being perfect. It’s about being present. Getty Images

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